A Simple Guide to Stop Worrying once and forever!
Don’t worry, be happy?
In 1988, Bobby McFerrin released the song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”. The song can easily put a smile on your face, but is it realistic to think that it is possible to will yourself to stop worrying?
The short answer is yes, you can!
To get started, you have to change your mindset.
If you believe that worrying is part of your DNA, then you will live up to that picture. If you can look at it from a different perspective, where worrying is a habit that you have developed over the course of your life, then you will have better success in overcoming it.
If I look at my anxiety as something that I have no control over, then I won’t be able to control it.
Many people may argue that worrying cannot be a habit, and if you’re going to stick with that line of thinking, you may as well quit reading.
For those of you who are willing to take a different approach, this may be just what you’ve been looking for!
You CAN learn to stop worrying!
Your worrying habit was created because at some time in the past it fulfilled some need.
If the habit is no longer providing any satisfaction, then it’s time to try something else.
The exciting thing to learn is that you do have a choice in what action you take.
You can continue to do what you’ve always done and hope for the best. Or, you can begin substituting other things in place of those anxious thoughts. While you’re at it, why not convert that negative thinking into something that helps you to be happy?
Just like trying to break any habit, your first impulse will be to keep doing what you’ve always done.
Make an effort to stop worrying!
To disrupt the cycle, you will have to make a conscious effort to stop worrying and divert your attention to your more desirable new habit.
It will work best if you can find something that is enjoyable to do in its place. In other words, don’t worry and be happy instead.
It will take some practice, but eventually you will have created a new habit.
You will have successfully converted an unfulfilling habit into a helpful one. Just paying attention to changing your behavior, will do wonders for quieting those anxious thoughts. Some things to consider would be to smile at yourself in a mirror for 30 seconds or to jog in place for 5 minutes.
If you don’t like those ideas, find something you can do that will take your mind off of whatever is troubling you.
Tell yourself that you will worry later!
Another tactic that may help is to tell yourself that you will worry later.
One suggestion is that the next time something is bothering you, tell yourself that you will stop worrying about it at that moment.
Then, reserve a time slot of about 20 minutes as your worrying time. Let’s say you’ve decided to save all of your worries for 7:00 pm every night. Then, when that time arrives, allow yourself to worry about whatever you want for that twenty minutes.
For most people, they are able to postpone the worrying for there is some comfort in knowing that they will make time to worry later. Then, when the scheduled worrying time arrives, they have difficulty making themselves worry. It sounds too good to be true, but it works!
You have the power within yourself to stop worrying.
Get rid of the belief that you have some type of brain malfunction that causes your anxiety. Accept that it is something that you have learned to do, which means that you can unlearn it. So, believe that you can control those worrying thoughts and then make it happen!
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